Biblical Communication that Strengthens your Relationship.
Communication is part of everyday life. Perhaps nothing else brings such a combination of joy and frustration than the way we communicate with each other. Here are some biblical guidelines to make your communication more productive and effective.
Check your Heart Attitude
Consider others more important than yourself. Philippians 2:3-5
Let love be in control
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. It always protects, always trusts. From 1 Cor. 13:4-7
This passage is not a test to apply to your spouse as a defense, but a reality check for your own heart.
Be an Epic Listener
Don't answer with your words or thoughts before you have listened completely. Proverbs 18:13
Be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry. James 1:19
Work faithfully at being an expert, caring, and wise listener.
Don't act as if or assume something is true without carefully verifying it first. Proverbs 18:17
Speak only what is helpful
Soft answers turn back anger. Anger is never helpful in marriage / teenager communication. Proverbs 15:1; James 1:19-20
Pleasant words bring healing. Proverbs 16:20-24
Words that do not build up, encourage and benefit the hearer are rotten words. Ephesians 4:29
Truth is never a reason to avoid love when communicating. Ephesians 4:15
To see if you are communicating well, say something like this in a calm and loving tone:
"This is what I understood from what you just said. Is that what you meant or did I misunderstand?"
Stay with it until you hear, "Yes, that is exactly what I meant."
This requires sacrificial love. It lets the other person know that you are following Christ by considering him or her more important than yourself (Phil. 2:3-4)