Debra Fileta: 7 Tips for “Christian Dating”

By Kathy

First of all, the fact that the title of this post starts with the number seven (which symbolizes perfection or completion in Scripture) is a coincidence. 

The words below didn't fall from heaven. Seriously. 

With that said, I have found the following tips helpful when it comes to thinking about and approaching dating as a Christian. 

1. Remember that there is no such thing as "Christian dating"-only Christians who date.

One of the most confusing things we can do for ourselves is to categorize things by the "Christian" label. The word "Christian" is not meant to be used as an adjective to describe media or clothing or music. Rather, it's a group of people. People who are committed to living a life that is infused with God's love.

When it comes to dating, it would do us well to see it as an avenue toward getting to know God's people. Just like anything else we do in this life, dating is a way that we can reflect Christ to the people we come in contact with. Let's take the pressure off and see it as just that.

2. Don't take dating too seriously.

Now that we've put aside the concept of "Christian dating," we should probably also put aside the notion that dating must equal marriage. If we only go on dates with people who, based on our initial perception, seem to have the potential to be our lifelong partner, we'll go on very few actual dates.

There's very little that can be learned about someone outside a significant interaction of some sort. Some people can learn a lot about each other through the development of a friendship, but even that eventually requires the next step of going on a real date. Contrary to popular belief, you don't actually have to know if they're "the one" (which is a myth anyway!) before committing to dinner and a movie. Let's not take this so seriously, K?

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