Q&A: I struggle with homosexual feelings and temptations. Does God hate me? What can I do?
By Boaz Wadel
Q:I struggle with homosexual feelings and temptations. Does God hate me? What can I do?
Billy Graham answered:
You are not alone. Many people struggle just as you do. It is important to realize that God loves you deeply and does not condemn you for your same-sex feelings and temptations. But He is concerned with how you handle them.
If you engage in homosexual relations or lust (willful fantasizing about such relations) God is deeply grieved and sets about in a variety of ways to turn you from such a destructive course. When homosexual thoughts arise in your mind, you must reject them and turn your mind to wholesome thoughts (Philippians 4:4-8). The Bible says, "No temptation has seized you except what is common to man.
And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it" (1 Corinthians 10:13). You must discipline your mind as an athlete disciplines his body.
God not only wants to protect you from homosexual behavior, but He wants to begin to meet the deep needs at the root of your same-sex desires. Apart from an occasional miracle, this psychological and spiritual healing which leads toward sexual wholeness does not happen quickly.
Usually, outside help is necessary. For this reason, we would suggest that you contact a Christian ministry which assists men and women who want to deal with homosexual issues in their lives. For information about a ministry which may exist in your general area, you might contact Homosexuals Anonymous Fellowship Services, P.O. Box 7881, Reading, Pennsylvania 19603, telephone: (610) 779-2500.
We would also encourage you to seek additional guidance from a Christian professional counselor who understands this problem. A book which you may find helpful is "Coming Out of Homosexuality" by Bob Davies and Lori Rentzel. It would be available from a Christian bookstore or by writing to Regeneration Books, P.O. Box 9830, Baltimore, Maryland 21284-9830, telephone: (410) 661-0284. Worship, instruction, and fellowship with other believers in a warm and dynamic gospel-proclaiming church will also prove invaluable. Don't despair. God has a solution for you, and He promises, "Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you" (Hebrews 13:5).